This is a 2018 update of an article that was originally published in October 2011.
What a strange coincidence that the celebratory
National Coming Out Day event occurs each year on October 11, the day before the anniversary of Matthew Shepard's death.
At the risk of dampening the uplifting message of NCOD, I like to use this time each year to remember Matthew, and in so doing, bring attention to the enormous need we have for greater tolerance in our society, as well as the importance of showing support for those among us who struggle to accept their own sexuality.
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Matthew Shepard |
Matthew Shepard was 21 years old when he died twenty years ago on October 12th, 1998.
He was one of two sons born to his mother Judy and his father Dennis, along with his younger brother Logan.
He was a student at the University of Wyoming. He loved politics and traveling.
He was a slight kid, measuring only 5'3" tall and weighing not much more than 100 pounds. Matthew was gay.
Just after midnight on one cold night in early October, Matthew met Aaron McKinney and Russell Henderson at the Fireside Lounge in Laramie, Wyoming. Under the guise of giving Matthew a ride home, the two men, also both in their early twenties, drove Matthew to a ranch in a remote area outside of Laramie.
It was in this secluded setting on the outskirts of town where McKinney and Henderson brutally pistol whipped Matthew and beat him savagely. They delivered repeated blows to Matthew's head, which fractured his skull in multiple places and left more than a dozen lacerations on his face and neck. The two men pummeled Matthew so badly that his brain was no longer able to regulate his heart rate, body temperature, or other vital functions.
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The fence. |
And when they were finished ruining this young man, McKinney and Henderson took his wallet and shoes, tied him to a fence, and left him to die alone in the near freezing darkness of a cold Wyoming night.
Eighteen hours later, Matthew was discovered by a cyclist who found him tied to the fence, and who at first, believed him to be a scarecrow. Matthew was taken to the hospital where his injuries were deemed too severe for doctors to operate. He survived a few days in intensive care, never regaining consciousness, and having no chance to say goodbye to his mother, father or brother, before he was pronounced dead at 12:53 a.m. on October 12.
The world has changed dramatically in the twenty years since Matthew's murder.