Monday, July 2, 2012

Turn of Phrase - Anderson Cooper Comes Out Officially and Quietly

CNN journalist Anderson Cooper
"I’ve also been reminded recently that while as a society we are moving toward greater inclusion and equality for all people, the tide of history only advances when people make themselves fully visible. 

There continue to be far too many incidences of bullying of young people, as well as discrimination and violence against people of all ages, based on their sexual orientation, and I believe there is value in making clear where I stand."

- From CNN News anchor Anderson Cooper, explaining his decision to openly discuss his gayness. Cooper shared the truth about his sexual orientation in a low-key manner, through a classy and eloquent email he wrote to journalist and blogger Andrew Sullivan.

The decision to come out must have been incredibly difficult for Cooper. While he is personally comfortable as a gay man, in his letter he discusses his fear of losing the last shreds of his privacy and his concern over having his professional objectivity called into question. Clearly though, his sense of personal responsibility to the causes of young gay people, marriage equality, and society in general outweighed his concerns about coming out. 

Coming out is hard. Each of us who eventually reaches the decision to share the truth about our sexual orientation has fought our personal demons, fears, and doubts along the way. 

But it's incredibly important that those of us who can come out, do come out. Gay people, especially younger folks, need good role models, and straight people benefit from seeing that gay people are not so different. 

The world needs more Anderson Coopers.

6 comments:

  1. Your thoughtful response to Anderson Cooper's email is what has been missing from all the commentary on it this week. There's NO WAY that straight folks can fully understand what it means to come out of the closet. Thank you for sharing a fresh perspective.

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  2. Jen - Thanks very much for the very kind comment.

    I think the straight parents/family of gay people have to "come out" in their own way as well. There may be other kinds of "coming out" (diseases? mental illness?) that bring forth similar feelings of fear, doubt, and self-loathing, but regardless, coming out as gay is a unique and stressful experience.

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  3. "I think the straight parents/family of gay people have to "come out" in their own way as well."

    This is an interesting comment, and I think it's absolutely correct. Even if the family is of the "We love you no matter what" variety (as mine is), it can be difficult. When my sister came out back in the mid-90s, it took a long time for my mom to accept that the life she'd envisioned for all her kids was going to be different for my sister. On top of that, knowing that your child (or sibling) is going to be the object of hate and discrimination, at least to some degree, is heartbreaking. And I know that my mom has lost (as in, distanced herself from) several friends that she realized were so bigoted she couldn't stand to be around them.

    Obviously this doesn't compare to what it means to be the one actually coming out of the closet - as you said, it's a unique and stressful experience - but I do appreciate that you can see it from other perspectives. :)

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  4. I appreciate the comment Andrea. And I'm proud of your mom for accepting your sister and rejecting the bigotry of some of her "friends!"

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  5. Oops, that third comment was from me. Not sure why Blogspot gives me so much trouble about my commenting identity sometimes.

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  6. Wasn't 100% sure if it was you or Andrea Lueken. Thanks for confirming!

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